Over the past week there has been a huge change in Edie’s sleeping and it is hitting us hard over here. Edith has been pretty consistent with her sleeping patterns since day one. Around 80% of the time we spend 30-90 minutes getting her to sleep and then she sleeps 4-5 hours, nurses, sleeps 1.5-3 hours, nurses, 1.5-2.5 hours, nurses, lounges and sleeps 30 minutes -1.5 hours. Don’t get me wrong we have had a few cluster feeding nights and a few lucky nights of 7-7.5 hours of straight sleeping but in the past week our routine has completely shifted.
Edith is still taking 30-90 minutes to get to sleep but now she is sleeping 2-4 hours then waking up and nursing but not going right back to sleep for 30-90 minutes and then sleeps 1.5-2 hours (if we’re lucky) and then is up for 1-2 hours and then sleeps for 1-3 hours and then is up again for the day with maybe a nap in the morning if I’m lucky. On top of not sleeping as well she is having fussy, crying, screaming fits when she is awake during the night. I nurse her, change her diaper, and burp her but nothing seems to help except a little bouncing or back patting and of course just when I think she has settled down and is back to sleep as soon as I put her down she is fussing and eventually wailing.
I know that she is still so young that sleeping is pretty unpredictable but during the first 9.5 weeks of her life she has been pretty predictable and consistent. Neil and I are the most exhausted that we have ever been with him working crazy hours and then being woken by a screaming baby just hours after going to bed and lately as soon as I go to bed (which is like 9:30) Edie is waking up and doesn’t want to go back to sleep. Last night I went in to bed at 9:30 and spent an hour trying to nurse and sooth her back to sleep but eventually gave up and put her out in her swing in the living room where Neil was working so that I could get a few hours of sleep since I didn’t get any when Neil was away this past weekend.
I spent the morning googling what might be going on and for the most part the responses I have found are:
Until babies are closer to four months their sleep schedules are unpredictable.
Could be sleep regression due to developmental changes. This could be a possibility however the generally timeline for developmental phases at this point is at 8 weeks and 12 weeks so she is right in the middle however from what I have learned babies don’t always fit the standard timelines.
Could be that she is not feeling well. This is very possible has she has been stuffy and we have been watching her temperature because it’s been between hovering around the high 98’s to low 99’s (doctor is to be called at 100.4F).
After a hectic weekend alone (which I’ll blog about soon) while Neil was away at a work conference this whole not sleeping thing is really exhausting me to the point where I have developed a bit of a cold and so has Neil.
Any suggestions or words of wisdom on how we can get back to a better sleeping situation? We are headed out of town for Neil’s 1/2 Marathon this weekend and I am really hoping that maybe Edie will sleep better before then because Neil is exhausted and now worried that he won’t do well at the race.
I’m currently trying to recover from a single parenting weekend so here is a highlight of Edith and my weekend in numbers:
Naps: 6 <—crazy!
Hours of sleep: 14 (My sleep between Friday, Saturday & Sunday)
Cups of coffee: 4
Showers: 3 (Friday, Saturday AND Sunday)
Baths Given: 1
Break downs (mine): 3
Diapers changed: 40 (or so)
Hours nursing: too many to count
Episodes of Gilmore Girls: 20
Photos Taken: 380
I knew from the beginning that I wanted to document my entire pregnancy with photos and weekly blog posts. I started to take photos around week twelve and write weekly blog posts around week 14 and by week 30 I decided I really wanted to create a pregnancy photobook.
At first I was just going to create my own and get the pages printed up but then I saw that Shutterfly had a pregnancy photobook template and because Shutterfly is always having some sort of deal I knew that I could create it now, finish after our baby arrived and buy it when it was on sale.
Here is a peak of a few pages of my book:
Creating a pregnancy book is a great way to document your pregnancy and is a wonderful keepsake. I can’t wait to show Edie the book when she is older and share what it was like being pregnant with her and how we prepared.
Disclaimer: This is NOT a sponsored post all thoughts and opinions are my own. I purchased this book.
This photo was featured yesterday on the Ergobaby Facebook and people sure fell in love with it.
This is what a few people had to say:
I have to agree that it is pretty sexy to see Neil wearing Edie around.
Before Edith came along, spontaneous vacations were a regular event for Lindsay and I. When we first moved to Vermont, there was rarely a month where you couldn’t find us traveling to Boston, New York City, Portland (Maine) or somewhere else in the Northeast. Sometimes we would travel to see a band or to celebrate a special occasion but it was usually because we were bored or stir crazy. Our babymoon to South Carolina this past March was thought to be our last spontaneous trip for quite some time. But with summer winding down, we decided this past Thursday to make the most of it and join Lindsay’s parents on a week long trip to the Ocean State. One thing is different about this trip, this isn’t the normal, whirlwind shopping, dinner and drinks trip that we used to take. We’ve rented a beautiful condo on the Narragansett Bay in sleepy Warren, Rhode Island.
We decided to take the trip to Warren on Thursday morning after debating it for, oh, about five minutes. We had decided that we were ready to venture outside the house for our first overnight trip and, well, make a week out of it. Friday night, we rushed to pack everything up and make last minute runs to the grocery store and last minute calls to our good friend Laura to check in on Boo while we were gone to make sure he wasn’t too lonely without us (he really is quite dependent). With a six hour drive ahead of us, we decided that wasn’t enough and went out to breakfast at Magnolia Bistro
with Laura and her boyfriend Aaron and then make the trip to Johnson so that Edith could meet her great-grandmother, great-aunt Carol, great-uncle Brian and her cousin Michelle for the first time.
After visiting with the family for a couple of hours, we decided we should hit the road and begin the long drive to Rhode Island for our first family vacation with Edith. Warren is about four and a half hours from Johnson, but with adult bathroom breaks, nursing breaks and diaper changes along the way we figured we had at least six hours on the road ahead of us. With Edie being gassy and upset for the last hour or so before we left, we really weren’t sure what we had ahead of us. But, we couldn’t have asked for a better trip. After fussing for a few minutes, she settled in and soothed herself for an hour or so until we stopped at the beautiful rest area in Randolph as she nursed with Lindsay for an hour or so and I just took the time to soak in the beautiful weather and enjoy the time with my family. We hit the road, making a pit stop in White River Junction at Tuckerbox for some fuel for the rest of the ride. Once we were adequately caffeinated, it was time to get back on the road and face the rest of our trip. We decided to take the “scenic route”, taking back roads through small, isolated towns in Vermont, New Hampshire, and Massachusetts. We stopped at a rest area or two to nurse and Edie even had her first road trip meal at McDonalds. Everyone has to do it some point in their life, right? (Disclaimer: She nursed in the parking lot of a 24 hour McDonalds just over the Rhode Island border, no actual McDonald’s touched any of our lips)
The First Night
After a rather uneventful six to seven hour trip, we were finally at our home away from home for the week in Warren. We settled in and took a tour of the house and it was even more beautiful than we could have imagined. It was obvious that there was thought put into just about every detail in the home with a nice, modern kitchen, paintings on every wall, books on art and anatomy throughout the bookshelves and nautical decor mixed throughout.
After we unloaded the car, we settled in and visited with Lindsay’s parents for a short while as they fawned over Edith. Before long, with all of being exhausted, we headed upstairs to the bedroom to get settled in and put Edith down for the night. Or so we though… After a long day of being in a loud restaurant, meeting a lot of new people, traveling for 6 hours and being in a new environment Edith had a hard time settling down for the night. Lindsay nursed and set up the pack and play and I pumped up the exercise ball and bounced Edith to sleep. After about a half hour to an hour, Edith was up again, letting us know she wasn’t comfortable with her new sleeping arrangements. I then ventured out to find us some food since we gambled on there being food we could eat at the house and had foregone stopping for food in Worcester, MA. When I mentioned that Warren was a sleepy town, I really meant it. There wasn’t an open kitchen to be found anywhere in the town at 10pm on a Saturday night. As I headed back to the house, I could hear Edith’s cries from down the block. Lindsay and I traded off soothing Edit to sleep in hopes that she could get some rest after a long day. After a couple hours of Edith waking up every hour or so, we decided to bring Edith to bed with us where she would be with us and more comfortable with our smells. We both figured the damp, salty, ocean air added to her feeling uncomfortable away from home. Once we moved her into bed with us, she calmed down and was able to sleep much more soundly through the rest of the night, only waking up to nurse.
The First Day
After not being able to find any food the night before, we both woke up extremely hungry and ready to hit the road in search of breakfast and groceries. We made our way to Wild Flour Vegan Bakery and Cafe in Pawtucket where we both got coffee, scones and a raw vegan raspberry chocolate cheesecake square to share. The coffee was great and the food was as great as I remembered it being the first time. The cafe’s staff and a number of customers all stopped to admire Edith and she calmly sat while we ate and napped off and on. After a long night, the first day started off really well.
After breakfast, we met up with Lindsay’s parents to do some grocery shopping together at Trader Joe’s in Warwick and Whole Foods in Providence. We were approached by several people, stopping to compliment us or talk with us about Edith and their children. It’s something you always here about happening, but not something we’ve ever really experienced at home in Vermont. The common theme of our discussions seemed to be that they “grow up way too fast” and I do find that I agree as it’s an amazing experience to marvel over how quickly Edith changes from day to day and week to week. She’s growing like a weed and her personality is developing more and more every day. After groceries, we headed back home and enjoyed lunch together on the balcony while Edith took a well deserved nap.
After doing a little work, I put Edith in the Ergo where Edith fell fast asleep and Lindsay and I headed out for a walk around downtown Warren to take in all of the cute little shops and restaurants in this quiet little town. We stopped in some of the shops (including one of the tourist traps where we stocked up on salt water taffy), got a coffee and made our way down to the wharf by the house. After a long day, we put Edith down to sleep for the night and enjoyed the sunset from the balcony off of our bedroom. After a rough night the first night, Edith settled in for long sleep, only waking to nurse.
Couple’s Yoga for Labor and Birth, with Susan Cline Lucey
This one-time workshop is a great way for you to bond as a couple in preparation for sharing the birth experience together. We will cover yoga poses, breath work, relaxation and meditation techniques helpful in labor and birth. A strong focus will be placed on labor support techniques and ways to build confidence in your ability to birth without intervention. This workshop is a must for first time parents, as well as for those second/third time parents who are not planning on taking a birth class but would like a class to connect around the baby and a refresher on labor support techniques. (source)
Back in June Neil and I took a Couple’s Yoga For Labor and Birth Workshop at my yoga studio along with eight other couples. We started out the class by first setting our intention for the class and for birth. We then wrote down an affirmation to help us focus in on the birth; mine was “I trust my body to birth this baby” and Neil’s was “I know Lindsay’s strength and confidence will guide her through the birth and I am here to support her.”
Much of the class was focused around learning relaxation techniques to help during labor and birth. We discussed breathing techniques (which I ended up using throughout my birth):
- breathing–> relaxing the jaw = relaxed pelvic floor; tried goddess pose with focus on breathing through it just like breathing through a contraction
- groans, moans and screams–> focus on low moans and groans b/c it keeps the pelvic floor open versus high pitched screams/shrieks which tense up the body –> go ahead try it! shriek and see how your body reacts, feel the tension in your abs, your chest, your pelvis? now do a low moan or groan- can you feel the difference?
Along with the breathing techniques we also tried a variety poses for laboring in such as a supported squat. We used this a little during labor as well as the massage that we discussed but the biggest thing I took away from the class was the breathing and the loan moans and groans.
We both loved this class it was very intimate. I really wish that it had been a series and not just one night! Although I learned a lot from our private birth class it was great to be in a room with others practicing the techniques, especially since a few of the moms-to-be were familiar to me from prenatal yoga.
Disclaimer: This is NOT a sponsored post all thoughts and opinions are my own.
Today was my first official day as a stay-at-home/work-at-home mom and it really wasn’t as stressful as I thought it might have been! The first two weeks of Edie’s life we were lucky that Neil was able to use five paternity days and five vacation days so we had him full time. The next two weeks he worked from home (the benefit of a computer based profession) and I was able to have his help when needed but today he had to go back to work so that meant I was on my own. I feared that Edie would be fussy all day (she has had some bad gas lately) and that I would end up feeling lost as to what to do without my baby whisperer husband home to whisk her off and bounce with her. However today actually went really well and I even had time for a nap and a shower!
I got out for a 30 minute walk with Edie
Edie took a 3.5 hour nap
While she napped I was able to do a load of dirty diapers…
cleaned up my desk area, take a shower and a nap, change the sheets and
prep dinner! (trust me I don’t expect this to be come the norm)
The afternoon was spent cuddling, nursing, fussing and waiting for this guy to get home
and read her a book and put her to bed.
We briefly covered breastfeeding as part of our Natural Baby Care Class and actually we learned quit a bit from our Doula(Sarah), however she suggested that we also sign up for a breastfeeding education class. So I registered us for a 2.5 hour breastfeeding education class.
We arrived at the class to find eight other couples and our instructor. The first thing we learned from the class is that we were so glad we took private childbirth and natural baby care classes because you never know who you are going to end up with in a group class. Unfortunately, we ended up in a class with a number of couples who thought that the sight of breasts in breastfeeding videos were funny among other things that we don’t need to get into here. But, let me tell you, they made my jaw drop.
Anyways, on to the good things that we learned from our amazing instructor who is an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant and the breastfeeding coordinator for the Vermont Department of Health, among other things.
Things we covered in the class:
- Hospital practices that support breastfeeding
- Who to call for lactation support
- Breastfeeding Basics
- Positioning and Latching
- How milk is made
- Breastfeeding Videos
- Challenges and Solutions
- The first week
- Perceived low milk supply
- Separated from Your Baby
- Expressing milk and breast pumps
- Storing breast milk
- Introducing a bottle- paced bottle feeding
- Considerations for your day care provider
Honestly I am writing this nearly 2 months after having taken the class (I had the best intentions of writing this earlier) and now I don’t completely remember the details of what we learned. Overall I felt like the class really covered what you needed to know about breastfeeding and how to actually breastfeed from positions to latching and we watched a few videos that provided good examples of positioning and proper latching. We also covered a number of challenges and how to overcome them and where/who to turn to if you find yourself struggling. Lastly, we covered breast pumps, storage and what to do when someone else is taking care of your baby.
What I have learned from breastfeeding:
We are going on almost 4 weeks of breastfeeding now and let me tell you it really does get easier. Don’t get me wrong, we still have some challenges, but it does get easier. Although Edie did pretty well at latching right off the first few days of breastfeeding were the most challenging and I ended up with sore, bruised nipples. I also struggled with finding a hold that worked for both Edie and me. When I left the birth center I felt pretty comfortable with breastfeeding but when I arrived home I started to have a few doubts so I watched a few videos online to help me. I soothed my sore nipples by expressing a little breast milk onto my nipples (oh and my milk came in within 72 hours of Edie’s arrival) and I changed my hold from the cradle to the football hold and found it made all the difference. A few days later we had an appointment at our pediatrician with the family nurse practitioner(who is also a certified lactation consultant) and she observed me breastfeeding and was impressed but made one suggestion that has been a game changer- bring the baby to the boob NOT the boob to the baby.
Since making these changes I have had almost no more nipple soreness and breastfeeding is going really well. The only challenge that I have had since making these changes is cluster feeding which is exhausting and at times frustrating. I ended up having one huge breakdown during our first week home after a particularly exhausting evening/night of cluster feeding that lasted around 7 hours. Today I still find it challenging at times to sit and have back to back nursing sessions especially when we want to try and get out of the house or when I am exhausted and want to sleep but overall things are going well and I am loving breastfeeding.
Disclaimer: This is NOT a sponsored post all thoughts and opinions are my own.
In honor of World Breastfeeding Week and National Breastfeeding Month
When I was pregnant I found myself quickly growing out of my regular bras so by my second trimester I decided to pick up a few as well a few nursing tanks. Let me tell you this was the best decision that I have made and my breasts were certainly thankful that I did.
Now let’s talk nursing bras because as I have come to find out there are a number of different options. Here are the ones that I have and my thoughts.
This is one of my favorite bras that I have purchased. There is no underwire and it is super comfortable. I also love the lace detail which makes it feel a little sexy rather than just a nursing bra. It is also great to wear at night. I do wish though that I had purchased it a size larger than I had because it is a little tight around the band now (I purchased it at 22 weeks).
I bought this two pack of nursing bras for lounging around the house and to wear at night. I find that they are similar to a sports bra with less support. They are so comfortable to wear. I would definitely recommend these to any nursing mom.
I purchased two of these one in white and the other in black. I loved them because they reminded me more of a regular bra than a nursing bra and I mean who doesn’t love lace? They are both really comfortable …unless of course you are actually breastfeeding. Unfortunately these are now my least favorite bras because of the underwire. Nursing and underwire do not mix.
These nursing camis where the best purchases that I made for both nursing and pregnancy. They are nice and long and covered my pregnant belly and still cover my postpartum tummy. They are super comfortable and I wear them all the time, so much so that I really need to buy myself a few more. I would recommend having at least four nursing camis. They are great for wearing under t-shirts for nursing so that when you lift your shirt to nurse in public your stomach is still covered (if that matters to you).
I saved my favorite nursing bra for last, it was sent to me from LeadingLady.com. Of all the nursing bras that I have this one fits the best, is the most comfortable and I absolutely love the lace on it. This bra makes nursing bras looks sexy, which I think is important to remember- nursing bras don’t have to be ugly and frumpy!
For more information about finding just the right nursing bra fit, breastfeeding tips & advice from Leading Lady’s lactation consultant, a downloadable breastfeeding handbook and our nursing blog, visit LeadingLady.com.
Disclaimer: LeadingLady.com provided me with their product at no cost. I was under no obligation to review them if I so chose. Nor was I under any obligation to write a positive review or sponsor a product giveaway