Attachment Parenting

During our Natural Baby Care Class one of the big topics that came up was Attachment Parenting. Attachment Parenting is based on forming and nurturing strong connections between parents and their children. We discussed Attachment Parenting International‘s (API) Eight Principles of Parenting*:

  1. Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting
    • Examples: Work through negative emotions surrounding pregnancy. Explore different types of healthcare providers and birthing options. Educated yourself about developmental stages of baby.
  2. Feed With Love and Respect
    • Examples: Breastfeeding and attachment. “Bottle Nursing”. Nurturing through feeding. Introducing solids. Nurturing a taste for nutritional foods. Gentle weaning.
  3. Respond With Sensitivity
    • Examples: Needs and the benefits of responding with sensitivity. Responding to tantrums and strong emotions. Responding to the old child.
  4. Using Nurturing Touch
    • Examples: Needs and the benefits of nurturing touch. How to provide nurturing touch. Nurturing touch and the older children.
  5. Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
    • Examples: The case against solitary sleep.  What is Co-Sleeping (co-sleeping versus bed sharing).  Nighttime routines.
  6. Providing Consistent and Loving Care
    • Examples: Create schedules with baby in mind. Practical tips for short separations. Working and alternate caregivers.
  7. Practice Positive Discipline
    • Examples: The dangers of traditional discipline. A gentler approach to discipline. Tools for positive discipline.
  8. Strive For Balance in Your Personal and Family Life
    • Examples: Balance is the foundation upon which attachment grows. Practical tips for maintaining balance. Tips for supporting new mothers. Tips for balance and the older child. Tips for dealing with parent “burn-out”

*Information provided from Mother Rising Childbirth Services

The most important thing to remember about attachment parenting is that you don’t have to do it all or go to the extreme.  Finding what works best for you is most important.  We have done our best to prepare for pregnancy, I am planning to breastfeed, we will be co-sleeping for the first few months (not bed-sharing but rather sleeping in the same room) and are planning to keep all of these principles in mind as we begin our lives as a family of three.

Do you practice attachment parenting?

Pregnancy Ups and Downs

Pregnancy Ups

  • Date night at home. Sunday night Neil and I enjoyed a date night at home.  It was one of those date nights where it took us hours to prepare dinner and we spent time in the kitchen cooking together.  Neil prepared a batch of bread and made homemade burger buns.  He also prepped potatoes to make The Pioneer Woman’s Perfect French Fries.  I fried up the french fries, prepped burger toppings and cooked up our veggie burgers. Then we sat down to enjoy them together and watched Young Adult. We had no computers, no distractions and hours of time together just talking and cooking.  I spent the night trying to soak it all in knowing that this would probably be one of the last times for many years that just the two of us would be able to do something like this, however it also made me excited to share nights like these one day with our child.
  • Diapering. I finished washing all of our cloth diapers and pre-folds, which unfortunately have to be washed at least three times.  I am looking forward to stuffing diapers tonight and getting them all ready for our little one’s arrival!

Pregnancy Downs

  • Uncomfortable. Unfortunately it has been ridiculously hot and humid here lately which is making me really uncomfortable.  The other night our bedroom was so hot and humid I slept on the couch until that got uncomfortable and then I slept for a little while on the floor in front of the A/C before finally heading to bed.  I am so glad that it is finally cooling down a bit.
  • Never Ending To Do List. You know you’re nesting when….your to do list is four pages long. Okay so they are small pages but still it’s a mile long and although we crossed off a number of items this weekend there is still so much to do.

Weekend Snapshots

We started off our weekend with a midwife appointment and a tour of the birth center (more to come of this later). After our appointment we met my parents for an early Father’s Day dinner and drinks.

Saturday while I relaxed on my parents couch
Neil and my dad headed out for a short hike to Prospect Rock.

After their hike (and a necessary shower) Neil, my mom and I headed out to the farmers market where we picked up a few veggies and a few plates of Himalayan food <–really tasty.

After our outing we came back to my parents house to get ready for my cousins graduation party.

Mom prepared a platter of veggies which I proceeded to eat most of at the party.

While Mom was in the kitchen chopping away
Neil, my dad and I were outside working on cleaning the car.

We vacuumed, cleaned the interior and washed and waxed the outside.

On Sunday we spent the morning visiting another farmers market, which was actually pretty disappointing with the exception of getting our juice fix and trying some new kale chips.

We stopped for some lunch and ate outside enjoying the beautiful weather.

After lunch we headed back home to play with kitty
and work on organizing the nursery before I headed to work.