I have been debating writing this for a few months now but honestly it’s still a challenging topic for me. It seems that shortly after I wrote our last update that our nursing relationship took a sudden turn.
Edith and I have had quite the nursing relationship over the past 20+ months. We started with non-stop nursing which left me stressed and in tears, to hourly nursing, to bi-hourly and then for many months we nursed 6-8x during the day and then 1-2x at night. For the most part we have followed baby led weaning with the exception of night weaning. In December I decided that we just didn’t need to nurse at night any longer, my new pregnancy and midnight wake ups to comfort nurse were just too much for me. Since Edith had been dry nursing aka not eating nursing but rather just soothing herself back to sleep for about a month at that point I decided that it was time. I talked to Edith about it and started slowly with the process and after about a week she was fully night weaned. We nursed around 7pm and then not again until at least 5am.
Shortly after this Edith started to drop nursing sessions during the day as well and despite my asking her if she wanted to nurse (what seemed like) constantly she would usually say now and started only nursing when she woke up in the morning, before nap, sometimes mid-afternoon and before bed. By mid-January we had dropped down to morning and night and by the end of January just mornings and then just like that it was over. In February Edith asked to nurse maybe five times and all of those times she nursed for 60 seconds max.
While this makes things a little easier on pregnancy number two and I am glad she made the decision to stop nursing on her own it is still a challenge for me. I had these grand plans of nursing her until at least two and possibly even tandem nursing. I never thought that she would self-wean so early. Even now it makes me sad that we don’t have that time any longer. Now we read books together all day long and this is our new nursing time. I can’t help but wonder if my decision to night wean prompted her to self-wean or if maybe my new pregnancy pushed her to self-wean as I have heard to toddlers self-weaning around 18 months when mama is pregnant. Either way she has and it’s over.
How long did you nurse? Did you choose to wean or did your baby/toddler wean on their own? How did you handle weaning (literally, emotionally, physically)?